Complaining about not complaining

Sometimes people tend to think the worst of things.

I found that sometimes they tend to interpret the things I say and turn it into something vile. It's annoying.

Like for example:

It's been raining. I am trudging along a soggy patch in a field. I bump into a friend. "It's so muddy," I said. Trust me I am just stating a fact. A neutral fact. Nothing more.

And what I get is an admonishment for complaining. It's like an uncalled for slap in the face.

The question is, was I complaining?

If I was, I would not be just commenting, "It's muddy". I may have added a harsh word or two and glared at the mud with such intensity it would turn solid again.


Example number two:

A friend is commenting on girls who wear heels. Why do they prefer to wear heels instead of flats?

I suggest simply, because they're short.

You're so bad, he says.

What is so bad about that? Just because I am tall and I am saying others are short, am I making fun of them? What is wrong with being short? What if I prefer to be short? Better centre of gravity. And you can wear high heels without towering over guys. ;P

Does saying certain word immediately mean you are complaining or being unkind?

Don't be so fast in jumping to conclusion.

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